As I am working with my clients, I encourage them to
feel safe. When I lead them in imagery to find a special,
safe place, a few clients cannot imagine a place like
that. Some of them do not even feel safe enough to allow
the relaxation process to occur because, in their whole
life, theyve never felt safe. There are many parts of the
world where an individuals life is threatened as a result
of war, famine and other violent issues. But there are
many many people in the west who feel insecure because
their family was internally war torn.

Only when a client feels safe to make the changes that
they want will those changes actually occur. The
problem they want to change served some purpose in
the past. By the time they come to consult me, its
become a problem. The subconscious will many times
resist the change because its still trying to protect them.
Overeating, smoking, excess drinking are some of the
ways the subconscious uses to safeguard an individual.
These habits serve the purpose of stuffing, holding in or
numbing emotions because those emotions were
unacceptable to their family. It might also help them by
keeping other many people away so that the human avoids
further hurt.

Self-judgement and self-condemnation might have
become coping mechanisms to avoid excessive
criticism from the family. Not being successful as an
adult could be a way to avoid breaking a family rule
about "Not acquiring too big for your britches." Health
issues could be an attempt to get positive attention or
even avoid negative attention as a child. Seeing a parent
who was ill could create an unconscious model to
follow to be like that parent. If youre like the parent,
theres a better chance of being accepted by him/her.

All of these are ways the subconscious has found to
help you in the past. That help is most definately outdated, but
your inner mind doesnt realize it. The subconscious
doesnt feel safe enough to change the pattern. Your
first step is to find a certain way to allow the subconscious to
feel safe enough to change to a better knowledge.

If you have an intractable challenge, write down how it
might have benefited you in the past or present. Theres
always some advantage to it, or the subconscious
wouldnt be holding onto it so hard. How did it contruct
you feel safe? Now, find a certain way for the subconscious to
feel safe so it can release the challenge. It could be
something like discovering another way to achieve the
benefit.

A person wanting success might give themselves
permission to release the familys attitude about
success. For health issues, recognize that you dont need
a parents acceptance now. The subconscious wont
change until it feels that youll be safe. When youre
able to make a new pattern feel more secure than the
old one, the subconscious will mobilize its resources
and accept the new idea.

Contemplate your connection to the Universe. The
Universe desire the best for you and will keep you safe
when you rely on It. You are an individualized
expression of the Universe, and It has given Itself (as
you) all you could ever target . You just have to feel
safe enough to accept it. The old patterns we are just
outdated ideas that helped you at a time when you
needed them. Youve outgrown them just as youve
outgrown training wheels on your bicycle. The
Universe provides everything you need for the full,
joyful knowledge of life.

When youre able to recognize how and why it hasnt
felt safe to change, address those subconscious
concerns by realizing that youre in a different space
and measure , and feel the security of the Universe, your
subconscious will cooperate with you to expand into a
greater knowledge of life.

Affirmation:
The Universe provides me with everything that I absolutely need
for a full, joyful, harmonious life. Its safe for me to
change. My subconscious realizes that the old ideas no
longer serve me. Ive outgrown the need for the old
pattern. Its now appropriate for me to create new
mental patterns. I feel secure and whole with my new
mental, physical and emotional concepts and life. Its
safe for me to expand into a greater knowledge of life